Dan Savage talks Romance: @fakedansavage Dan tells a Dyke how to pick romance over weed and more. http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=17004334

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Sign of the Apocolypse 2080: More White People Died Then Were Born Last Year http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/13/us/census-benchmark-for-white-americans-more-deaths-than-births.html?ref=us&_r=1&

Song of the Day from Dornik brought to us by Gorilla vs. Bear:  @gorillavsbear http://www.gorillavsbear.net/2013/06/13/dornik-something-about-you/

It hurt’s to admit the power that money has on the world. It’s a damn shame. You would think that man, a creature with the ability for complex thinking could fathom a way for the world to exist without currency. But alas, through our interdependent society, financial systems have dug themselves deep into the psyche and lives of the modern man.  Everybody has a price. How much money do you cost?

It’s been my experience that people who aren’t motivated by money are equally demotivated by it. There is still the constant awareness of its power, even if they have a nihilist mood built from years of failing to attain it in measurable amounts. Yes indeed. Being broke at 30 does give a nigga the chills. What to do? First, you have to understand the systems of money and why they are so ingrained in us all. Once again, let’s start from the beginning.

The first men and women to walk the earth were not all about the Benjamin’s. Can you fucking believe that? If only they would have invested in something. Imagine the interest on flint spearheads alone.  But the first forms of currency took hold not long in the eon of man. Ancient Africans traded skins, beads, shells, gold, and other collectible items for everything from food to slaves to other currency. A few people somehow won a lot of money and started calling themselves Caesar and Pharaoh. They used and abused the resources of their land, fought wars, taxed people, and traded money to other countries in the hopes of getting more money.
We began to coin it – money measured in weigh-able amounts. Jesus died for 30 pieces of silver. The middle ages brought forth issues with money and population distribution or  class. Man’s value was firmly placed in the ability to buy and own land and those around him. Hell the word currency, from Middle English curraunt, means in circulation. Throw it in the air. As in “Nigga can you make it rain or not”?  Even then, life was all about making those around you do something strange for some change and dance for them bands.

With this distinguishing reason, society established class lines based on money as equity became a factor in life, from health care to education to choosing a mate. The world was a more dangerous place and with populations fighting for limited resources, wars and conflicts were constant and nearly necessary for civilization to expand. The royal classes consisted of people who were able to keep their wealth in beads, gold, and spices from one generation to the next. There was no interest or dividends. What you owned, you protected with an army, or you lost it. Western civilization’s dominance, especially financially,  is preceded by the transfer of money and trusts between old European nations in the times of the crusades (I am very sure if the Arabic nations would have won, we would definitely be spending Arab money).  You were given a title to show your wealth. You may have been a king or a queen, a lord or a lady, a duke or a duchess, a marquise, an earl, a baroness, or even an esquire, if you were lucky enough to own land or money. If not, you were yeomen and gentlemen at best. That title told your family’s saga better than you could and you spent your life fighting for a higher class.  With these titles came expected modems of decorum and etiquette. And why? The rat with the coke has the best parties. In laymens, you have to trust a man who has so many people dependent on him to survive that he can’t move his foothold. These are the trusts that bind families and nations and are only broken with the consequence of war.

We don’t really use the titles anymore, and the classes have blurred slightly, but it’s still the same. Broke people are expected to hate to get 30 pieces of silver. People with money are expected to be honorable all the time. That’s all class is – the value on expected modems of decorum and etiquette. Little has changed since the era of silver and gold.

If you don’t catch what I’m saying, don’t worry. I’ll break it down. No need for cliff’s notes. Why is it all about class you ask?  We have been chasing dollars and owning each other for so long, we have tied our entire sense of self-worth to money.  While money is the end result, class is the everlasting aesthetic that encompasses the culture of money. If you want money, you must first understand its use and to know its use, you have to understand class.  Now we might call it middle class or working class, and then it may have been the noble class or the gentry, but in the end, you knew what to expect. If someone is lower class, chances are they are not only broke, but highly degenerate. It correlates that intelligent people are usually not lower class as education is either paid for or earned in working hours devoted. When you consider class, know its the  measure of your money. It’s where money becomes a noun, a verb, and an adjective and not just an abstract concept. It’s a wealth scale and the more you have the higher your expected class. So what do you do if you are like me? What do you do if you are born in the low-class but want to live a high-class lifestyle? You fake it until you make it.

I don’t mean go out and buy all the fake jewelry you can so you pop shit in front of teenyboppers who drive 80K cars. I mean carry on the etiquette and tradition of the higher class while living modestly. Remember, money is just a sign of expected behavior. It’s easy to carry yourself in a civilized manner. Those things are a dime a dozen. If you don’t know, read a book on etiquette and get familiar.  Try to use proper English for one. If you don’t give a fuck, don’t. But if you aren’t faking it, chances are you won’t put in the work to make it either, so your broke as should stop reading this now.

There is only one way to make it. You have to learn how. Money is Power. Knowledge is Power. These trite statements are not false or coincidental. In our modernity, you do not need much money to go the library and read enough books to match a rich man’s(the noble class of new) wit and mannerisms or ethics.  There is really no excuse to lack of intelligence today when there are so many avenues to chase smarts for those who truly need some brains. A focused intelligence is the only thing needed for a man to stand out in his class. Booker T. Washington and W.E.B DuBois were meaningful because they could read and write eloquently, when millions of other slaves were not as educated. I’m just saying. You can be a subject matter expert or tradesman (the ugh class or trade smiths of yesteryear) and at least get paid and have a respectable title in the village from a focus in knowledge alone. I didn’t live then, but I imagine it’s easier to become a master craftsman now then it was then. If you are smart and enabled, you will learn a trade early in life, some rudimentary skill that peasants struggle their entire lives to apprentice then master. If you are not, you do nothing, not even finishing high school. If you are smart and enabled you add other education on top of the trade or master your common education. If you are not, you never do anything more than master a trade, never even learning how to read and write a sign advertising sales and discounts – or you never master your common knowledge, never becoming an expert in anything but common bullshit.  The more intelligence you build the easier it will be for you to fake it until you make it, because you will stand out as unique which will help on the path to making it. This is what they need to tell kids in school. You might need to have 1000 hustles or you might find out that you can shine the best at something you may not like, yet with a  skill you have, so you never know what you  to need to know, so learn it all.

I know some of this shit sounds like some sell out shit. I love being working class. No one roots for the Cubs and the Bulls like working class Chicagoans. But I want to be rich. Who doesn’t want the riches? As far-fetched as it is to make wealth, I can transcend what is expected of my class while chasing it. You can live rich every day. Nothing is stopping you from doing that. Our ignorance alone is the only cause for our poor lifestyle. It’s front, but it’s easy to master when the clout (real money) is so much harder to obtain.

I can’t be wealthy in this lifetime because wealth is a sign of richness passed from generation to generation and unfortunately, my family name isn’t Hilton (though I could always fuck and marry into the Hilton’s name). At most, I can get rich and pass it on if I find the right assets to own. That’s the beauty of this generation of black people in America; we may be the first to truly hold our own financial future in our hands. The myriad of economic barriers  and trickery are still prevalent, but if you can overcome them then you may be able to build a sustainable bundle of wealth before you leave the earth. Think about copping your great great grandkids Jordans in the year 2090 when you consider balling out at the club.

If you see me in Dockers and some Rockport’s, it’s a big chance I am cashing big checks. I love to dress in t-shirts and sweats but these days, I am really chasing Gs, so I try to rock a suit more often than not. It’s not hard to find a good suit, the uniform of the higher classed, or the gentleman aka the gentry man. I am over 30 so if I am in gym shorts, I am in the hood or I am at the gym. I dress for success.

In life, I figured you have to take steps if you want to be rich. You emulate your idols and the people with money you admire, usually because you want to be in their group of friends aka their class. You are a baller in training. You get a job and you learn to pay bills and fix debt. You learn what to waste money on and how to save. You are a baller on a budget. Then if you figure things out you can learn to use your money to make money and spend the dividends. You are big balling. If you don’t ball till you fall, you should have a nice goose egg and a lot of property to pass on to your next generation, making them born of a higher class and thus starting the cycle of building wealth.  If not, they come into the world brainwashed by you, and likely to follow in the cycle of yeomen birthing yeomen (at best). And it’s nothing wrong with yeomen in the overall sense of society and all, but this is the first generation of black people who are able to build real wealth and keep it, so you have to go for as much as you can get and hold as much as you can hold.

If the drug trade were legal, black and brown people would have built real wealth two centuries ago. If you think that Christopher Columbus and all of those white people sailed across the seven seas for a little cayenne pepper you are out of your fucking mind. Don’t get me wrong. They were cooking up shit differently, but it was the cocaine and sugar cane that kept them coming back for more. Everybody wanted rum and coke. Instead of doing fair business with the Indians, the whites eviscerated them and brought slaves for guns and rum, who they murdered and tortured in exchange for free labor and the massive buildup of the capitalist wealth system of rule that is American democracy.  The drug trade is not legal, and the fact that most cocaine and poppy comes from brown people means it will probably stay illegal, even if a few white people manage to capitalize on legalized marijuana (and thus assume power on its import and sale and wealth creating potential). It’s the same thing with foreigners and oil ownership. If the true owners of oil were in control of it for the last 100 years, its chief abuser, the USA, would have made every nation we get oil from rich. Instead, white people used guns and war to usurp the resources of another continent.  I am only bringing up race to put class into perspective. When you have built enough wealth that you can bar another person from being your equal based on race, creating a second class of expected behaviors and etiquette based on race, and flood the market with this way of thought so that people believe this as true, money is no doubt about drawing class lines. If you don’t have it, your resources will be drained by someone who does have it. You will be delegated to being a second class citizen if you are not aware of the resources around that have yet to be claimed. Since the dawning of the new world, and the conquering of new people and new lands, the game has been about money. You can waste years denying it, or accept it and learn to win with the awareness of it.  You can’t win the game if you don’t know the finish line and the rules to get there. The rules might change, but the goal will always be to build wealth and matriculate classes.

So now that you know, get out and go learn a trade. Then another one. Then brush up on the arts and the humanities the many ways that the higher classes like to relax, and practice and live a higher class of life and pass on that higher standard of living to those of your breed and never ever forget this. Stay classy.

I just sat through my first wedding. Don’t tell anyone. They wouldn’t believe you anyway. I have been invited to only a handful. Apparently, I’m not the kind of person you invite to important things. Weddings are a danger zone or so I assume people think when they think of inviting me. My uncle was married a decade ago. I had already budgeted and planned to go to Cancun for a senior trip happening the same weekend. I missed a very beautiful soiree with custom made cream and champagne colored suits in South Carolina. A decade before that, my father married my stepmother, but we were not invited or couldn’t attend, depending on whether you hear it from my mother or father. Recently, my best friend was married without me. No one invited me until a wedding until now. And my what a thing a wedding is.

It’s rare in life that a moment touches me and reminds me to cherish it all, the good and the bad. If it all will be better in the end, let your union be a harbinger that the dawn will always break the day and the troubles of the world can be suspended in the sleeping night.

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There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man. True nobility is being superior to your former self. 

Ernest Hemingway

He who conquers others is strong. He who conquers himself is mighty. 

Sun Tzu

Everyday, when I look in the mirror, I ask myself how can I be better than the day before. 

Ryan Mega

I guess I never believed so. I’ve yet to meet the beautiful woman that sweeps me off my feet. They are darling creatures, but there has never seemed a reason to settle with one. More importantly, I am always thinking of the next girl to try, to get to know, and to explore the world with. I hate to focus on sex, but it has weight in any relationship, and if I know one thing, there is definitely nothing better than pussy, except new pussy. When I was young, I used to think love at first sight meant catching eyes in a diner and spinning that fairy tale until dying together 50 years later. Now I am hoping it means my penis and her vagina fit so well together, it had to be fate, like a lock and a key in the universal lock and key party for soul mates. I can’t wait until I fall in love with the pussy. I would love to be pussy whipped to better understand what it means to have that desire for one person and no one else. Unfortunately, when I have sex with the same woman for more than a fling then I start to wonder what other pussy I am missing out on. It’s sad and you should pat me on the back for admitting it (or kick me in the ass), but I need to try other pussy because, well because I think I am getting better and I deserve better pussy. I used to joke that I would get married when my dick stopped working. Now I know it was more truthful than not. When I stop getting better, it will be time to settle and get married.

I could give a lot of ink to this, but it’s what we all know. It why younger chicks like older guys and older guys like younger girls. It’s that damn internal timer always telling us to think about forever because we could die any day. It’s ironic that we spend our lives building health and security only to knowingly squander it all when we start a family. It sounds harsh but I am not lying. Go to Match.com. The single guy or gal with 4 kids is not getting much play from anyone with less than 2 kids, guaranteed. Why? Because he or she has squandered their social value already. I’m not just talking money people.
I am still building my equity. When I am not wasting time writing stupid blog posts or smiling in stupid girls faces, I still have mornings to work out and days to volunteer. Can you believe that? I have time to go and pet a dog that doesn’t belong to me and help old people without obligation. Because I have a very secure life and no dependents, my life affords me the ability to be cavalier and confident that what I have is what I need. I am not saying you have to be single, but you must recognize the value in being unattached and free as opposed to having a family already. At least for the kind of person I want to fuck with. What if I were unemployed? Or a rich tycoon? All of these things are great, but you have to put it into the greater context. Think of this as front and clout 2.0. Let’s break it down. If you had $30M when you were 17 years old, your life would be a lot different from catching $30M when you were 77. Now replace the $30M with 6 kids. Sure these are extremes, but you get my point.
Maybe you don’t get my point. Even if you do, let’s break it down some more. As much as humans would like to think we are special. But like Em said, we ain’t nothing but mammals, fucking and sucking our way through life. Men are wired to build and control and women are wired to nurture. We use to fuck whatever we could get our hands on and raise whatever came out as a group, a village of nomads. Now it’s about customs and courtship. Before the Indian chief gave up Pocahontas he was given many gifts. Not because she was a dime, but because she was a dime and the key to peace with the invaders.
You are now a football player, player. The better you become at recognizing and reading fronts, the more picks you’ll get, simple as that. First, you have to plan in reverse – start with the clout inventory. I am not recommending you make a shallow list, but with little thought, you should know exactly what kind of mate you want. I am not saying that you have to go to med school to marry a doctor but you’ll need to read a few books. It’s okay to work on yourself. You’re building clout. You’re increasing your social value. So even if the person that you are interested in doesn’t dig you, if you’ve studied well, you’re going to attract people just like them. This is the essence of game. What if you haven’t studied your match yet? You are not going to know how to approach them or what stuff they might be into. You’re going to go for the front, the flash, and if you win, you’ll feel lucky and insecure, and not deserving. You’re going to feel like the old divorced guy dating the young chick because his friends might think she’s hot, not because he likes MGMT. It’s first and foremost about recognizing the difference between true quality and trashy fronts. Take some time to really think about what you want in and out. If its more than one chick, drink some coffee and really put some thought into how you’re going to do it then playboy. As you build your clout into the person you want to be, you are going to have many opportunities to learn the differences in what you thought you wanted and what you really want, what you want and what you can have. And this is where you will build your game. I am going to help you.
As you go and you grow, remember one thing – perhaps the only thing that gives you a leg up in this game of dating and mating. If you build your clout and control your relationships with women well, others will flock. It’s not because they are any lesser at building clout or attracting men – no it’s the pressure on women to settle. They were built to nurture. They get it from other breeders more than any guy will ever get it. Guys do not push other guys to settle and have kids. Women seem trained to. That’s detrimental to their paradigm for social worth and usually why women don’t make the best playas. It’s not fair. They innately have better listening skills which directly leads to better conversation. They tell better lies and break more hearts. Plus plastic surgery and make up are game changers. Female players, gamers, and PUAs do exist. I’ve dated a few pretty good ones. Even in them, I saw that yearning. There is always a sense that they are blooming themselves for one to settle down with, even when they seem to be totally focused on their shit. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but don’t worry, you don’t have to. You were born with a dick. You were born to build and then control. This means you are a fucking idiot. But it also means you can improve. And luckily, you came to the right place.
Now let’s stop being so abstract and get more concrete. That’s enough of the social value theory and detailed targeting – front and clout 2.0-. Let’s get into the lessons. You came for the stuff you can use in the streets. I got something you can sniff coming up next.

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We have a long way to go before I tell you fucks what to say to pretty girls at the bar. This game is far too fucked to work with damaged goods. We have to make sure your mind is in check first. Your thoughts become your actions and we need to make sure your thoughts are on point by reshaping your philosophy on women and the reason for dating.

If you didn’t get the gist of the last notebook entry, it’s about how women are winning the gender war and abusing this renaissance in women’s suffrage due to the feminizing of men in the modern era. We trained them to observe better and be more patient and now they have our asses. Girls literally sit and wait to collect ass meat. It’s their national pastime. Better than collecting dick meat I guess.

Whether you agreed with my synopsis on gender roles or not, you have to agree the first rule of attraction is observing these gender specific traits? Does she have long hair? Is she thick? Does she have nice tits? All of these things and more can only be discovered through observation.

What are we observing? Whatever they give you. When peacocks want to mate, the males in the species show their glorious plumage to entice the females to copulate. Giraffes brutally fight each other with their massive neck bones for a chance to drink the females piss (read: the flehman’s sequence. it should also be noted that female giraffes tease the male until other males are around and then and only then will she stop for ‘’rubbing”, because she wants to see the boys slug it out so the winner can “rub it” and taste it, and mount it”. Why you ask? Simple. She wants to fuck the best giraffe but needs everyone else to know it too.) Human’s put on bigger fronts. On average, girls apply exactly one ton of makeup before they finally get some guy to marry them crow’s feet and all. Guys will play the nice guy boyfriend for months before the real asshole comes out. What is all of this about? It’s observation. Watch how people put up fronts. It’s the most animal part of our beings- the vanity of attraction. Everybody walks around like their shits don’t stink.

Look back at those people that you consider as being good with the opposite sex. Don’t they have their game in order? Something tells me they know exactly how to attract their type and exactly how to see through the ones that are going to waste time. Maybe they learned how. But they know. You can learn to. Fronts are just that – the thing people put up front to attract people. It’s sad to admit the shallow nature of humans, but usually, our front is our talent or the thing that makes us unique.  When you look good, you have the front of beauty and that will get you further than most things except for say money and a good reputation.  If you are extremely smart, that is sincerely a turn on for most people, even dumb ones. On a more basic level, if you drive a very nice car with very nice rims and dress in very nice suits, women will always compliment your very nice first impression.

But chasing shiny shit will get you nowhere and the people who make it in this dating thing are the ones that know front is nothing without clout to back it up. There may be many different ways of breaking down equity – clout –  and what it means to different people, but self-worth is only validated by social worth, hate it love it.  Don’t get me wrong, a brilliant goddess might marry a monk if she finds herself in need of wisdom, but life isn’t a fucking Tarantino movie so I doubt that happens when she could marry a billionaire who goes to church most Sundays and its because the guy with the billions and the decent spirit is considered more valuable than the guy with the holiest of all spirits sans Jesus. Can you blame her? A good spirit won’t feed a family of four. Jesus actually made bread appear. Huge difference. This is why the giraffe who wins the pee wins the girl- he just built equity – clout – right before her horny 6 foot high having giraffe ass.

I know I am moving fast, all these dope ass concepts and slight explanations, so I will slow it down and give you some tidbits you can remember. The rundown:

1. There is a gender war – not because men and women want to fight, but for Darwinist reasons, the genders are psychologically conditioned to live insanely vain and simple lives that revolve around having to one up or off each other for pussy and a chance at the most spoiled brats.
2. Men realized this first and put a value system on pussy. For starters, the value of virginity was heavenly and divine. And chastity belts were made and worn by honest maidens who wanted to keep the value of their pussy high for the lucky Christian knights to come along and joust for it. The truth is, there was pussy everywhere and they were tired of fighting for it. They wanted to get in and get out without having to die for it, so they told the girls THEY had to choose one guy. Why off each other for a chick that’s trying to pull you out they game they thought. Fighting with clubs was out. Buying castles was in.  And chicks dug castles. They decided to show they were worthy in other ways. But few were noblemen and women, those horny fucks.  Fuck them all you slut and no one will want you, so don’t devalue your pussy they said. Save it for one guy (or fuck one guy so your mother has an excuse and divine need to send you to a brothel or off with that loser who raped you now). Why the chastity rules? Because if she has fucked some other guy, there is the chance that she will she will turn traitor and let some foreign king ransack my kingdom, and I can’t have that shit. Pussy value was locked in and traded with birth and marriage and death and taxes, and no longer won in wars. Of course, now if a girl gives it up to a guy and he doesn’t marry her, she feels less self-worth and then is more likely to sleep with other men and it’s kind of like a self-fulfilling prophecy until she ends up a stripper named princess in a crystal meth castle.
3. Women realized they were fooled. The rules of chastity only applied to them because anybody could say they were a virgin but a pregnant woman. They realized the foolish trick that men played when they convinced them to waste their sexiest years waiting for a deserving man, which seemed sweet, but was a stab at controlling the freedoms of women. Men seized control of the gender war simply by being able to write laws on what makes a woman and what doesn’t make a woman.  To think, it was once common to think that being flowered was becoming a woman.  But women grew wiser. Blame the sexual revolution or whatever. They realized the only thing that makes a woman a woman is motherhood, as it always has been. They realized the power of the pussy was in using it and not losing it until you were ready to make the transition into a new life as a mother, motherfuck some guy trying to push it on in on some honeymoon (a term invented by some guy  who wanted to put value on the pussy). Now they too can put a value on genitalia and run game to get the man they want, instead of falling victim of whatever genetic beast of a donor so happens to catch her when she feels it’s time to settle.
4. Now that women have birth control and can prevent unwelcome insemination, the stakes are higher in the gender war. Women can now prevent being dominated and forced into domesticated lives at early ages because they were impregnated by the first penis to come along. To make matters scary for men, they are better at the two most powerful social tools for winning people and being successful at revenge– observation and patience.
5. People that we consider successful with the opposite sex are usually just the most observant and patient. They have keen abilities to decipher front and differentiate it from true clout. They are definitely smart and patient enough to wait for the right one or one for right now – which means they won’t settle, but will exercise a choice. They will choose who they want and have the best chance of creating their own satisfactory destiny. You spend half of your life working on a family or pushing it in trying to make one after all.

See the Importance. Now that you know why you are here, lets breakdown some front and clout for better understanding.  The formula is Front + Clout = Social Worth.  Remember social worth validates self-worth.

1. The male peacock plumage + fertile and healthy genes = great genetic donor worth giving up life for
2. The male giraffes battle for victory and the females good tasting piss + fertile and healthy genes + great genetic donor worth giving up life for
3. Girls with pretty looks and well maintained looks + a girl who always picks the wrong guys = a bitter girl who can’t figure out what makes a real man or a real woman
4. A nice guy who always smiles + but always finishes last or has a history of heartbreaks = a sucker for love.
5. A wedding ring + a 9 to 5 job and a happy wife = a family man
6. A wedding ring + a 9 to 12 job and a lonely wife = a cheating husband
7. Intelligence + a medical degree = a successful  brain surgeon
8. A gypsy on a rug on the corner begging + your stolen watch = one thieving ass bum
9. A gypsy on a rug on the corner begging + a magic lamp with a blue genie = Aladdin

Now that you know how front attracts and clout keeps and why it matters, you can better observe and practice patience in dating. Remember that observation and patience are your only real weapons. When you settle for the one who is going to change your life, you want them to be equal or better, not the cheating husband or the thieving ass bum. Flip the script on yourself. How do you front? What’s your clout? Does it equate to your station in life? Does your ego match the drapes?  If you are not quite where you want to be in life, have you planned on building clout or are you more focused on putting on a front? Are you patient enough to work on yourself until you are ready to date, or will you settle for any old loser boyfriend because you have real issues that he accepts and you haven’t learned to be alone? You will find that you need them both, but in the end, no front can ever equate to solid clout. Sure clout has a ceiling that necessitates some fronting (a billionaire can only be so modest, am I right?), but all the fronting in the world won’t equate to much clout (even rappers have some equitable skills that most humans don’t possess, if temporary and fading).

Test my theory. Let’s not even get into the details of anybody’s relationship. Just think of the first two people that come to mind and right them down. Then write the social worth equation for each.  When you compare the social worth to the other in the relationship, do they equate? If not, I bet there are problems at home.

Did you think about how your social worth would differ if you were in a different city or a different time?   Or did you forget the importance of location because I didn’t reiterate it? It’s amazing how far being tall can get me in Dallas, while in Chicago, it’s nothing major. You should see the way cars make the girls in Chicago go crazy, but in Dallas and Miami, an Aston Martin are common place, even to the hood parts of town. How does your social worth carry into other communities?

So that’s enough for this chapter. You have to know where you are on the social chain if you want to be successful with the other sex, but more importantly, you have to train yourself to see this value in others. You have to constantly check that value and validate it when interacting with them as potential mates. The formula is easy and simple to learn, but you have to use it constantly until you can eyeball a person and know what their value will be. You judge a book by its cover and you patiently wait to be surprised because life is long and until you feel the need to have some fucking kids and settle into a new persona, it fair to be that shallow. We do it with friends and family, but feel ashamed to do it when picking a wife. Fuck being open to people who are below you. Work to make everyone below you. Then walk down the hill and fuck them all. When you have the ability to think in these terms, its only then that you can step into the world of a true pick artist. How can you qualify anybody if you have no idea what you want in the end?

If you are looking at the Notebook #1 and wondered where I was going with it, don’t worry, here’s more. I know it’s not my regular rant when I write about “the dating game”, considering the heartbreaking stories  and idiotic stories about women I have shared on this blog, but  I have a bit of knowledge on winning and losing with women. So why am I sharing? Simple. Men are doing it wrong and I can’t go one watching.

There have always been rules to dating and I kind of like to think that men and women are from different planets. It’s a novel notion and it would make more sense. But those ideas seem  ancient when you apply them to the norms of today, an era where group dates, triads, and seasonal dating is less taboo and more household knowledge. The world of dating in 2013 is nothing like it was in 1993 or 2003 even. In the end, it’s always the rules of engagement that change. The gender roles were locked at the beginning of time.

That’s my theory on sexual nature. Women want someone to cherish them because they give up everything they are when they give birth but must give birth to fulfill their motherdom/chase for immortality. Those nice tits and great waistline? Gone. Here to stay, thinning hair, saggy tits, and bad hormones.  They spend their best years finding the best possible suitor to walk them to from motherhood to death. For guys, it’s deeper. We know we are useless sacks of semen. A woman can pretty much do everything a man can do. But there is one thing no man on the world can do and that is have a baby. Women might have penis envy or post-partum depression because they feel nostalgiac for a freedom they never really had. But men know we aren’t really the promised guy. In the end, chicks just want any penis, and yours will just have to do. We are just hoping to hang around long enough to die in your bed. That sounds easy until you consider that men are full of testosterone and don’t just want to settle and feel needed; no first they must secure as much land as possible and fuck the prettiest woman of all to ensure that his kids have the best chance of repeating his great fortune and he can fulfill his fatherdom/ chase for immortality. That’s a rough life and it’s for this reason that men have to feel needed. The best of us die insecure fathers with securities and loans and beautiful widows. The worst of us become the misogynists assholes who contribute to the rape culture prevalent in pop culture.

It is everywhere, the rape culture. That’s what the Grimes letter was about. That’s why little girls kill themselves and football players rape a girl they get to call a slut back in class on Monday. It’s as if these guys push this fear on women to feel more needed and secure in their fake role as “protector of the family”, that ever fading institution for gender constructs since the nomadic era. The days of the chivalrous gentleman are long gone. Now, GUYS get a Facebook message and a late night text. I can’t say that this is a bad thing, but it’s not a good thing for anyone.

There was once a time when the rules were known. The gentleman’s code is actually traced to the time of king and queens, that’s where the fuck the term chivalry comes from. The knights in the king’s court developed these methods and rules on courting ladies of the kingdom, etc. etc. Some of the love poems are known, like the Genevieve shit.  These codes survived through the last few years with the assistance of magazines lines GQ and Esquire and websites like AskMen.com and TheArtofManliness.com, but honestly, most boys are learning more about sex from porn than the doctor’s advice column in the men’s monthly. And girls grew tired of taking the shit in the gender war and began to brush up on the many ways men sought to rob them of their best years. People like Steve Harvey gave them tips and clues on how to avoid the fairy tale paradigm flaw that so many of them fall for.  And most importantly, the international world is actually looking at legal precedents against rape, not just marching about it.  Women’s Suffrage 2.0. While there is long ways to go until genders are considered equal, and scientifically can never be equal, the dawning of modern femdom has ushered in a renaissance period for women.  All and all, it hasn’t been a better time to be a chick in the world.  Not every woman is aware of this, but the few who have already seen the light are thriving on the possibilities. You don’t want to sleep with your husband anymore, well you never had to, so you don’t have to now that you’ve had the baby that’s for sure. Want to hang with your girls all night long and order in for your beau at 10pm? Go for it. Hell stay later and text him to order Chinese for 1 – fuck him and his after work meal. You work too right? That bitch can make his own hot pockets, am I right ladies? Wear whatever the fuck you want and dare someone to touch you, then sue them and take their money and repeat because there will always be some idiot willing to sleep with his secretary and settle out of court.  Only now is it accepted for a woman to go and make 100 million of her money and still take half of her husbands in the divorce settlement – because she gave up the body, not you dammit. You’re already going to pay for dinner and the movie, so you might as well pay for her rent too right? You don’t think this happens until it happens. Sure there are women who fall head over hills for guys, financially supporting no good losers, but usually it’s a handful before they grow tired or grow smart and settle and/ or upgrade the quality of people they date. But guys who start the habit of supporting women financially are probably going to keep tricking off until they die. There is no bringing a lost sugar daddy back to the natural way of thinking.

Women with game can get men to buy jewels and cars and drugs and do the dumbest stupidest shit because there is always some idiot guy out there looking to be needed. Smart women found this out and exploited it. That’s how Kim got Kanye going. He felt like he was saving something. Everybody keeps telling him it’s a ho he’s saving, but he isn’t listening because he has been waiting to feel needed by a beautiful girl and can’t wait to make her a beautiful rich widow. But something tells me Kim won’t be with Kanye when he dies as morbid as that reads.

In the end, that’s the ultimate lynchpin for writing this. Chicks are cornering us in lol. I think it’s time to have a gents meeting and get these things in order.  We need to talk about how we are treating women, now that they are going to pretty much eat a hole in our asses for the next few centuries. The gender roles will never change. We will always be a mutated chromosome and they will always have the choice of who they want to sleep with, deal with it and stop looking so needy.

And yes, the gender roles don’t change, but the rules of attraction do. Whether woman or man, you either get this and have control over it or don’t. Hopefully I’ve convinced you. If so, here’s the first couple of lessons.

When it comes to dating and romancing the opposite sex, you must work on your patience and your observation skills.

Women will always tell you exactly what they want, whether that is with their body language on the date or by ignoring your text afterword. I bet you the people who you think have mastered their game and their approach to dating are likely very good at observing and reacting to nonverbal signs and patterns of behavior.

If you are going to be a student of game, you are also going to have to be patient. It takes practice and it takes observation, but it’s going to take time to get it right. And if you know what you are aiming for, and really want to get it, then a little patience is nothing.

What if I told you that game was really just about those three things – patience, observation and respecting the natural gender role for women? Well, that’s all I am going to tell you. I will give you lessons and tips here and there, but if you know this then you already got game. If you’re busting your ass to be the best person you can be, it’s because somehow you know it’s going to attract the best quality of women and give you the best quality of life to pass on your muthafucking genetic code.  The rest is learning to observe and reflect on what these women and being patient enough not to settle for the wrong ones.  As you can see in these last two lines, dating shouldn’t be the focus of your life, but it determines the fate of your offspring and lineage, not to mention the livelihood of an expected half of your life.

Do I have your attention now?

— Ryan Mega

The Black Jay Gatsby

Venus and Serena
Batman and Robin
Michael Jordan and Scottie Pippen
Hotmail and Microsoft
Dr. Dre and Eminem
Dr. Dre and 50 Cent
Dr. Dre and Snoop Dogg
Dr. Dre and Eazy E
Andre 3000 and Big Boi
Tina Fey and Amy Poehler
Blossom and Sixxx
Barack and Michelle Obama

I think I just made this list to give props to Tina Fey.