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There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

 

 

There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man. True nobility is being superior to your former self. 

Ernest Hemingway

He who conquers others is strong. He who conquers himself is mighty. 

Sun Tzu

Everyday, when I look in the mirror, I ask myself how can I be better than the day before. 

Ryan Mega

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Ryan Mega’s Pickup Notebook #4: Social Value Theory and Why

Ryan Mega’s PUA Notebook #4

You know why I don’t have any kids at age 30? I still have potential that’s why. Why wake up full of ambition, moxie, and know how only to have it bridled by a whining baby? Why settle for repeat vagina when I have yet to crack that glorious one attached to the glorious heart that I wanted all of my life? I think I’ve been fearful of pregnancy every time I ever put my dick in a girl. We all have that five minutes of clarity afterward, when we are lying there wondering what and who we just did and sometimes even why we did it? Well I always have that thought beforehand. Every time. I have this inner dialogue with myself as a future mate, possibly even my wife. It’s like could this pussy in front of me ruin the chances of marrying a rich fertile young actress or model in the next 6 months to 6 years. I am not saying I listen to the voice ever or always, and I’m not really sure I could bang a rich actress, but it’s always a thought. Is this as good as it gets?

I guess I never believed so. I’ve yet to meet the beautiful woman that sweeps me off my feet. They are darling creatures, but there has never seemed a reason to settle with one. More importantly, I am always thinking of the next girl to try, to get to know, and to explore the world with. I hate to focus on sex, but it has weight in any relationship, and if I know one thing, there is definitely nothing better than pussy, except new pussy. When I was young, I used to think love at first sight meant catching eyes in a diner and spinning that fairy tale until dying together 50 years later. Now I am hoping it means my penis and her vagina fit so well together, it had to be fate, like a lock and a key in the universal lock and key party for soul mates. I can’t wait until I fall in love with the pussy. I would love to be pussy whipped to better understand what it means to have that desire for one person and no one else. Unfortunately, when I have sex with the same woman for more than a fling then I start to wonder what other pussy I am missing out on. It’s sad and you should pat me on the back for admitting it (or kick me in the ass), but I need to try other pussy because, well because I think I am getting better and I deserve better pussy. I used to joke that I would get married when my dick stopped working. Now I know it was more truthful than not. When I stop getting better, it will be time to settle and get married.

I could give a lot of ink to this, but it’s what we all know. It why younger chicks like older guys and older guys like younger girls. It’s that damn internal timer always telling us to think about forever because we could die any day. It’s ironic that we spend our lives building health and security only to knowingly squander it all when we start a family. It sounds harsh but I am not lying. Go to Match.com. The single guy or gal with 4 kids is not getting much play from anyone with less than 2 kids, guaranteed. Why? Because he or she has squandered their social value already. I’m not just talking money people.
I am still building my equity. When I am not wasting time writing stupid blog posts or smiling in stupid girls faces, I still have mornings to work out and days to volunteer. Can you believe that? I have time to go and pet a dog that doesn’t belong to me and help old people without obligation. Because I have a very secure life and no dependents, my life affords me the ability to be cavalier and confident that what I have is what I need. I am not saying you have to be single, but you must recognize the value in being unattached and free as opposed to having a family already. At least for the kind of person I want to fuck with. What if I were unemployed? Or a rich tycoon? All of these things are great, but you have to put it into the greater context. Think of this as front and clout 2.0. Let’s break it down. If you had $30M when you were 17 years old, your life would be a lot different from catching $30M when you were 77. Now replace the $30M with 6 kids. Sure these are extremes, but you get my point.
Maybe you don’t get my point. Even if you do, let’s break it down some more. As much as humans would like to think we are special. But like Em said, we ain’t nothing but mammals, fucking and sucking our way through life. Men are wired to build and control and women are wired to nurture. We use to fuck whatever we could get our hands on and raise whatever came out as a group, a village of nomads. Now it’s about customs and courtship. Before the Indian chief gave up Pocahontas he was given many gifts. Not because she was a dime, but because she was a dime and the key to peace with the invaders.
You are now a football player, player. The better you become at recognizing and reading fronts, the more picks you’ll get, simple as that. First, you have to plan in reverse – start with the clout inventory. I am not recommending you make a shallow list, but with little thought, you should know exactly what kind of mate you want. I am not saying that you have to go to med school to marry a doctor but you’ll need to read a few books. It’s okay to work on yourself. You’re building clout. You’re increasing your social value. So even if the person that you are interested in doesn’t dig you, if you’ve studied well, you’re going to attract people just like them. This is the essence of game. What if you haven’t studied your match yet? You are not going to know how to approach them or what stuff they might be into. You’re going to go for the front, the flash, and if you win, you’ll feel lucky and insecure, and not deserving. You’re going to feel like the old divorced guy dating the young chick because his friends might think she’s hot, not because he likes MGMT. It’s first and foremost about recognizing the difference between true quality and trashy fronts. Take some time to really think about what you want in and out. If its more than one chick, drink some coffee and really put some thought into how you’re going to do it then playboy. As you build your clout into the person you want to be, you are going to have many opportunities to learn the differences in what you thought you wanted and what you really want, what you want and what you can have. And this is where you will build your game. I am going to help you.
As you go and you grow, remember one thing – perhaps the only thing that gives you a leg up in this game of dating and mating. If you build your clout and control your relationships with women well, others will flock. It’s not because they are any lesser at building clout or attracting men – no it’s the pressure on women to settle. They were built to nurture. They get it from other breeders more than any guy will ever get it. Guys do not push other guys to settle and have kids. Women seem trained to. That’s detrimental to their paradigm for social worth and usually why women don’t make the best playas. It’s not fair. They innately have better listening skills which directly leads to better conversation. They tell better lies and break more hearts. Plus plastic surgery and make up are game changers. Female players, gamers, and PUAs do exist. I’ve dated a few pretty good ones. Even in them, I saw that yearning. There is always a sense that they are blooming themselves for one to settle down with, even when they seem to be totally focused on their shit. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but don’t worry, you don’t have to. You were born with a dick. You were born to build and then control. This means you are a fucking idiot. But it also means you can improve. And luckily, you came to the right place.
Now let’s stop being so abstract and get more concrete. That’s enough of the social value theory and detailed targeting – front and clout 2.0-. Let’s get into the lessons. You came for the stuff you can use in the streets. I got something you can sniff coming up next.

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Ryan Mega’s Pickup Notebook #3: Front vs. Clout

Ryan Mega PUA Notebook #3

We have a long way to go before I tell you fucks what to say to pretty girls at the bar. This game is far too fucked to work with damaged goods. We have to make sure your mind is in check first. Your thoughts become your actions and we need to make sure your thoughts are on point by reshaping your philosophy on women and the reason for dating.

If you didn’t get the gist of the last notebook entry, it’s about how women are winning the gender war and abusing this renaissance in women’s suffrage due to the feminizing of men in the modern era. We trained them to observe better and be more patient and now they have our asses. Girls literally sit and wait to collect ass meat. It’s their national pastime. Better than collecting dick meat I guess.

Whether you agreed with my synopsis on gender roles or not, you have to agree the first rule of attraction is observing these gender specific traits? Does she have long hair? Is she thick? Does she have nice tits? All of these things and more can only be discovered through observation.

What are we observing? Whatever they give you. When peacocks want to mate, the males in the species show their glorious plumage to entice the females to copulate. Giraffes brutally fight each other with their massive neck bones for a chance to drink the females piss (read: the flehman’s sequence. it should also be noted that female giraffes tease the male until other males are around and then and only then will she stop for ‘’rubbing”, because she wants to see the boys slug it out so the winner can “rub it” and taste it, and mount it”. Why you ask? Simple. She wants to fuck the best giraffe but needs everyone else to know it too.) Human’s put on bigger fronts. On average, girls apply exactly one ton of makeup before they finally get some guy to marry them crow’s feet and all. Guys will play the nice guy boyfriend for months before the real asshole comes out. What is all of this about? It’s observation. Watch how people put up fronts. It’s the most animal part of our beings- the vanity of attraction. Everybody walks around like their shits don’t stink.

Look back at those people that you consider as being good with the opposite sex. Don’t they have their game in order? Something tells me they know exactly how to attract their type and exactly how to see through the ones that are going to waste time. Maybe they learned how. But they know. You can learn to. Fronts are just that – the thing people put up front to attract people. It’s sad to admit the shallow nature of humans, but usually, our front is our talent or the thing that makes us unique.  When you look good, you have the front of beauty and that will get you further than most things except for say money and a good reputation.  If you are extremely smart, that is sincerely a turn on for most people, even dumb ones. On a more basic level, if you drive a very nice car with very nice rims and dress in very nice suits, women will always compliment your very nice first impression.

But chasing shiny shit will get you nowhere and the people who make it in this dating thing are the ones that know front is nothing without clout to back it up. There may be many different ways of breaking down equity – clout –  and what it means to different people, but self-worth is only validated by social worth, hate it love it.  Don’t get me wrong, a brilliant goddess might marry a monk if she finds herself in need of wisdom, but life isn’t a fucking Tarantino movie so I doubt that happens when she could marry a billionaire who goes to church most Sundays and its because the guy with the billions and the decent spirit is considered more valuable than the guy with the holiest of all spirits sans Jesus. Can you blame her? A good spirit won’t feed a family of four. Jesus actually made bread appear. Huge difference. This is why the giraffe who wins the pee wins the girl- he just built equity – clout – right before her horny 6 foot high having giraffe ass.

I know I am moving fast, all these dope ass concepts and slight explanations, so I will slow it down and give you some tidbits you can remember. The rundown:

  1. There is a gender war – not because men and women want to fight, but for Darwinist reasons, the genders are psychologically conditioned to live insanely vain and simple lives that revolve around having to one up or off each other for pussy and a chance at the most spoiled brats.
  2. Men realized this first and put a value system on pussy. For starters, the value of virginity was heavenly and divine. And chastity belts were made and worn by honest maidens who wanted to keep the value of their pussy high for the lucky Christian knights to come along and joust for it. The truth is, there was pussy everywhere and they were tired of fighting for it. They wanted to get in and get out without having to die for it, so they told the girls THEY had to choose one guy. Why off each other for a chick that’s trying to pull you out they game they thought. Fighting with clubs was out. Buying castles was in.  And chicks dug castles. They decided to show they were worthy in other ways. But few were noblemen and women, those horny fucks.  Fuck them all you slut and no one will want you, so don’t devalue your pussy they said. Save it for one guy (or fuck one guy so your mother has an excuse and divine need to send you to a brothel or off with that loser who raped you now). Why the chastity rules? Because if she has fucked some other guy, there is the chance that she will she will turn traitor and let some foreign king ransack my kingdom, and I can’t have that shit. Pussy value was locked in and traded with birth and marriage and death and taxes, and no longer won in wars. Of course, now if a girl gives it up to a guy and he doesn’t marry her, she feels less self-worth and then is more likely to sleep with other men and it’s kind of like a self-fulfilling prophecy until she ends up a stripper named princess in a crystal meth castle.
  3. Women realized they were fooled. The rules of chastity only applied to them because anybody could say they were a virgin but a pregnant woman. They realized the foolish trick that men played when they convinced them to waste their sexiest years waiting for a deserving man, which seemed sweet, but was a stab at controlling the freedoms of women. Men seized control of the gender war simply by being able to write laws on what makes a woman and what doesn’t make a woman.  To think, it was once common to think that being flowered was becoming a woman.  But women grew wiser. Blame the sexual revolution or whatever. They realized the only thing that makes a woman a woman is motherhood, as it always has been. They realized the power of the pussy was in using it and not losing it until you were ready to make the transition into a new life as a mother, motherfuck some guy trying to push it on in on some honeymoon (a term invented by some guy  who wanted to put value on the pussy). Now they too can put a value on genitalia and run game to get the man they want, instead of falling victim of whatever genetic beast of a donor so happens to catch her when she feels it’s time to settle.
  4. Now that women have birth control and can prevent unwelcome insemination, the stakes are higher in the gender war. Women can now prevent being dominated and forced into domesticated lives at early ages because they were impregnated by the first penis to come along. To make matters scary for men, they are better at the two most powerful social tools for winning people and being successful at revenge– observation and patience.
  5. People that we consider successful with the opposite sex are usually just the most observant and patient. They have keen abilities to decipher front and differentiate it from true clout. They are definitely smart and patient enough to wait for the right one or one for right now – which means they won’t settle, but will exercise a choice. They will choose who they want and have the best chance of creating their own satisfactory destiny. You spend half of your life working on a family or pushing it in trying to make one after all.

See the Importance. Now that you know why you are here, lets breakdown some front and clout for better understanding.  The formula is Front + Clout = Social Worth.  Remember social worth validates self-worth.

  1. The male peacock plumage + fertile and healthy genes = great genetic donor worth giving up life for
  2. The male giraffes battle for victory and the females good tasting piss + fertile and healthy genes + great genetic donor worth giving up life for
  3. Girls with pretty looks and well maintained looks + a girl who always picks the wrong guys = a bitter girl who can’t figure out what makes a real man or a real woman
  4. A nice guy who always smiles + but always finishes last or has a history of heartbreaks = a sucker for love.
  5. A wedding ring + a 9 to 5 job and a happy wife = a family man
  6. A wedding ring + a 9 to 12 job and a lonely wife = a cheating husband
  7. Intelligence + a medical degree = a successful  brain surgeon
  8. A gypsy on a rug on the corner begging + your stolen watch = one thieving ass bum
  9. A gypsy on a rug on the corner begging + a magic lamp with a blue genie = Aladdin

Now that you know how front attracts and clout keeps and why it matters, you can better observe and practice patience in dating. Remember that observation and patience are your only real weapons. When you settle for the one who is going to change your life, you want them to be equal or better, not the cheating husband or the thieving ass bum. Flip the script on yourself. How do you front? What’s your clout? Does it equate to your station in life? Does your ego match the drapes?  If you are not quite where you want to be in life, have you planned on building clout or are you more focused on putting on a front? Are you patient enough to work on yourself until you are ready to date, or will you settle for any old loser boyfriend because you have real issues that he accepts and you haven’t learned to be alone? You will find that you need them both, but in the end, no front can ever equate to solid clout. Sure clout has a ceiling that necessitates some fronting (a billionaire can only be so modest, am I right?), but all the fronting in the world won’t equate to much clout (even rappers have some equitable skills that most humans don’t possess, if temporary and fading).

Test my theory. Let’s not even get into the details of anybody’s relationship. Just think of the first two people that come to mind and right them down. Then write the social worth equation for each.  When you compare the social worth to the other in the relationship, do they equate? If not, I bet there are problems at home.

Did you think about how your social worth would differ if you were in a different city or a different time?   Or did you forget the importance of location because I didn’t reiterate it? It’s amazing how far being tall can get me in Dallas, while in Chicago, it’s nothing major. You should see the way cars make the girls in Chicago go crazy, but in Dallas and Miami, an Aston Martin are common place, even to the hood parts of town. How does your social worth carry into other communities?

So that’s enough for this chapter. You have to know where you are on the social chain if you want to be successful with the other sex, but more importantly, you have to train yourself to see this value in others. You have to constantly check that value and validate it when interacting with them as potential mates. The formula is easy and simple to learn, but you have to use it constantly until you can eyeball a person and know what their value will be. You judge a book by its cover and you patiently wait to be surprised because life is long and until you feel the need to have some fucking kids and settle into a new persona, it fair to be that shallow. We do it with friends and family, but feel ashamed to do it when picking a wife. Fuck being open to people who are below you. Work to make everyone below you. Then walk down the hill and fuck them all. When you have the ability to think in these terms, its only then that you can step into the world of a true pick artist. How can you qualify anybody if you have no idea what you want in the end?

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